I grew up without too many examples of what a good dating relationship or marriage relationship looked like. This led me to dismiss marriage for years. I didn’t want to get married. It just looked hard and painful and utterly not worth it. The question of course is, not worth what?
The only time I heard about marriage was when people talked about sex. The message was always: Don’t have sex until you’re married. That’s it. That’s the only context in which marriage came up. So, my pre-teen brain put two and two together –> Marriage must be all about sex.
But, following that logic, I concluded that getting married so that I could have sex wasn’t worth it. Sex wasn’t worth the emotional pain and overall duress that appeared to plague all marriages. A ninth grader had just declared celibacy 🙂
Once I started counseling my freshman year of college, God started me on this journey of redefining marriage and, more importantly, helping me discover why anyone would or should get married. This journey is nowhere near “done”, not do I think that I now have a complete understanding of marriage or why people should get married. That being said, these are the three reasons that I am confident God has brought before me over the last few years…you should get married if you:
1. Glorify God better with your spouse
I believe that we as human beings have been put on this earth to glorify our Creator. For me, this means pursuing what God has called me to at this time which, at least right now, is youth ministry and entering the conversation about sexuality- or starting it- in the Church. I can do that just fine as a single person. However, if I could do it better with someone else, you’d better believe I’d be all over that.
2. Love people better with your spouse
God is love. God says multiple times in the Bible that the world will know his followers by the love they show to one another, to their enemies, and just to people in general. Therefore, you should be able to love people better with your significant other.
3. Are brought closer to the feet of Jesus with your spouse
At the end of the day, our nearness to God is what matters. How well do you know your Savior and how are you becoming more and more like him. Does your significant other stretch you and challenge you in your spiritual journey? Do they continually point you to the One we have been told to seek after?
Why do you think people should get married?
Why did you get married? Would you advise someone else to get married for that same reason?