Who knows if this was actually a well done study, but for this moment that is quite besides the point! For as long as I can remember I’ve seen questions about and read people’s opinions on this topic.
Do you like the lights on or off during sex?
This always makes me wonder if turning off the light is a manifestation of the shame people feel towards their bodies and an attempt to not make sex as vulnerable an act as it truly is. Some people say that having sex, or even more specifically, being naked in front of someone, is the most vulnerable thing one can experience.
Just thinking about it scares me. I will be the first to admit I would prefer to start an erotic sexual relationship with the lights off! If anyone knows how flawed I am, I do, and in having sex with someone I’m not only exposing myself, but inviting that other human being to look at me. To look at the mess that is me.
It sounds like the best idea ever and the worst idea ever at the same time! On the one hand, I would love to have the type of relationship with someone that allows that type of vulnerability without judgement, without condemnation, without fear, without shame. But on the other hand, I am so skeptical that it actually exists. Can this actually be achieved?
But the good news is that God designed sex to be this way! He knows that we, as humans, don’t like to be vulnerable. We like to hide our flaws. We like to show others our strengths. But a marriage relationship demands vulnerability on all levels- spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical. And God designed it so that you would only have to be this vulnerable with one other person. It’s a spectacular and beautiful thing!